This crew has spilled a great deal of blood to make your name what it is. It doesn’t belong to you. It’s a jointly held asset, belonging to every man on this crew who sacrificed some part of himself to build it.
We all have that one fic that we were so excited to write, that we had a wonderful time writing, that we are really proud of….and it doesn’t get any attention.
Raise a glass to all those fics that didn’t find their audience.
Amen, sisters.
In God’s Own Country, Gheorghe’s story plays second fiddle to Johnny’s, an apt reflection of the migrant experience.
No one asks Gheorghe how he got here or where he’s come from. Yet Alec imbues his performance with a sense of his past, undiscovered. “Gheorghe has developed some survival skills over time because he just wants to work and to be able to survive,” he explains. “That’s why he keeps his head down. Until a point…"
— Alec Secareanu as Gheorghe Ionescu in God’s Own Country (2017)
Great point about Gheorge’s story being only hinted out (farm he had ?and lost?; schoolteacher mother, where was his father?; at least one lover he left behind, just sadly mentioned once) and yet implicitly shaping who he is, what he wants. Unlike John Silver in Black Sails (and unlike myself), he wisely accepts that the past shapes the present. And the decisions regarding the future.
Is it my slightly intoxicated state, or there IS a phallic symbol in there somewhere …?
*When you’ve been around straight people for too long*
Great film. I nearly always cry at the final demo scenes. And ohhh, the bread-buttering scene. And how happy I was to read that the “flamboyant” bloke lived into his 60s. P.S. I remember my younger self in Manchester, collecting for the miners’ wives with my then girlfriend.
“It has made me better, loving you.”
— Henry James; The Portrait of a Lady
Harrison Ford “ The Frisco Kid “ (1979)
Very slashy film about the (most unlikely) pairing of good-hearted train robber and Polish rabbi. The Italian title was something like “Please excuse me, where is the Wild West?”
This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤
Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.
I frigging needed that.
Failure is not a permanent condition.
The text on the image:
- Maladaptive belief:
If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.
More functional belief:If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.
- Maladaptive belief: If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.
More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).- Maladaptive belief: If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.
More functional belief:If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.
- Maladaptive belief: I should be able to excel at everything I try.
More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.- Maladaptive belief: I should always work hard and do my best.
More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.- Maladaptive belief: If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.
More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.- Maladaptive belief: If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.
More functional belief:If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.
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