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Potentially! But I guess I was pretty vague about that, which is odd because I never shut up.
So when I say “love” I don’t necessarily mean romantic love. Synonyms for love are want, need, desire etc which all amount to “What is driving your character?” One of my boo Kurt Vonnegut’s 8 rules for writing is “Every character should want something, even if it’s only a glass of water.” (Here are the rest, if interested: http://newyorkwritersintensive.com/kurt-vonneguts-8-rules-for-writing/)
So in this instance, love or the lack of it can refer to a character lacking a glass of water and wanting one, or already having a glass of water, and wanting to keep it.
When writing character relationships, “love or the lack of it” takes on a multitude of ideas, and using any and all changes and variations and evolutions is good. They love each other, they hate each other, only one loves the other. One had love in the past and now lacks it. One has never known love and now yearns for it. And the details of how those situations take place should always vary, but when you boil down every story, real or fictional, it always amounts to “love or the lack of it.”
Because, again, this isn’t just romantic love. It’s familial, platonic, philanthropic, sexual, financial, spiritual( self love. Or the lack of the aforementioned. Your characters’ stories don’t have to be any similar than our own stories. The things me and you do in our day to day lives may be completely different, but I bet if we were to analyze every move we make, we’re doing something because of a love for something or someone or a lack of it.
Thank you.